Want to lead groups with charismatic vitality?

Start with your routines.

My routines are so consistent that people often assume I’m missing out on life’s pleasures. They’re wrong. Routines don’t restrict your joy—they build your capacity for it. They shape your energy, your presence, and the way you show up for the groups you lead.

Nothing changes after one action. Transformation comes from the actions you repeat. If you want to become more optimistic, build a routine of naming reasons to be optimistic. If you want more energy, create a winddown routine that boosts your deep sleep. If you want to become a more compelling facilitator, make a routine of practicing your speaking and reflecting on your sessions.

People often say routines limit your freedom—that being structured means missing out. The truth is the opposite. Routines create freedom. Freedom from needing caffeine to stay energized, sugar to feel good, or screens to unwind. Freedom from relying on external boosts to show up fully for your group.

If there’s one routine that transforms my leadership the most, it’s the simple ritual of self-reflection—writing and journaling to understand what’s working, what’s not, and how I want to evolve.

What’s one routine you’re ready to commit to?