What should every event host stop doing if they want to create unforgettable, rave-worthy experiences?

After attending and leading thousands of gatherings, here are my top five “no-nos”:

1. Designing moments that prompt people to pull out their phones.
2. Serving food that drains energy and dulls the mind—connection requires vitality.
3. Allowing smartphone use to feel socially acceptable.
4. Choosing themes that push guests toward fancy, restrictive, or overly formal attire.
5. Letting people default to “autopilot” instead of guiding them into intentional connection.

Before you add anything new, try removing these five things. Watch what happens.

Chances are, you’ll start seeing the real mechanics of human connection—just as I have.