Before even beginning to design an event, we need to change our mindset around hosting entirely.

1. Event Coordinator → Human Connector

Joymakers don’t over aesthetics, performers, and potions; they design how guests actually interact. This shift moves the focus from the physical environment to the relational architecture. Instead of managing a checklist of amenities, Joymakers are architects of human chemistry, ensuring that the space, seating, and schedule all serve the primary goal of breaking down social barriers.

Proof: I once attended a retreat I would describe as “rustic and ugly” with basic food—yet it was profoundly meaningful because every ounce of energy went into connection design. During the closing ceremony, people were raving about their experiences.

2. Suppressor → Joymaker

Joymakers show their emotions, energy and excitement. In the group, they intentionally trigger the release of oxytocin and endorphins for social bonding, and serotonin and dopamine for happiness. Joymakers don’t settle for polite, stale environments. Joy is a performance enhancing drug that makes us more empathetic, trusting, and giving. It achieves exactly what alcohol promises—lowering barriers and heightening presence—but without the physical or social cost.

3. Invisible Host → Intentional Facilitator

A Joymaker isn’t a passive, behind-the-scenes service provider; they are an intentional facilitator who leads decisively for the good of the group. Being an "invisible" host often leads to social anxiety, chaos, and cliques. By taking charge, leading activities, and enforcing social rules, Joymakers protects the guest experience, creating a safe container where everyone knows exactly how to belong.

4. Public Speaker → Social Engineer

Joymakers don’t rely on innate personality, polished public speaking, or charisma to carry the room. They lean on their Social Technologies. True hosting is a system, not a talent. All they need to do is choose a proven, effective group activity and guide guests to participate fully and honestly. You don’t need to be confident in yourself, only confident in the activity!

5. Perfectionist → Experimenter

Joymakers are not perfect. They make mistakes and reveal their imperfections, because being perfect and polished is unrelatable. By showing curiosity, risk, and even failure, Joymakers signal safety. Mistakes become data. Imperfection becomes permission. By experimenting out loud, Joymakers make it clear that this space values participation over performance, and they give everyone implicit consent to drop the mask and be themselves.